Handy Hints of Worth

  • Notes of Potentially Handy Hints of Worth for Veterans with PTSD...
    plus potentially for Veterans afflicted with emotional effects of TBI....
  • Important crucial note: However, the first objective is to go over to the nearest VA Hospital or VA-approved clinic to seek proper care... if need be.... On-going psycho-therapy/group therapy with your peers is oftentimes extremely helpful and frequently vitally recommended, by the way. We highly recommend [COL] Russell Nakaishi [CANG] as an AMVETS VSO/Veterans Service Officer at Long Beach VA Medical Center, 5901 E 7th St Bldg 162 Rm 110-C California (562) 826-5709 <Russell.Nakaishi@va.gov> or VSO John Castillo at same location Rm 110-D (562) 826-8000 x. 2011 <john.castillo2@va.gov>
  • So after having accomplished that let's get down to it.
  • Your first tentatively proposed objective is to seriously consider reprogramming yourself In order to hopefully be free of inflicting constant guilt-trips or recriminations upon none other than you. "OK..." you may say... "How in the world do I do that?
  • Well, that's going to be your possible project, your hoped for duty assignment, if you will. That is if one truly wishes to be free. However, one ought to ask, "Free of what... for God's sake?"
  • Gosh... in many ways we're like a genie trapped within a an old weathered dirt-filled bottle... and we are secretly begging to know where the Alladin is in order to uncork the stinking thing and escape from all of our self-inflicted misery... to be free as a bird again! Free of all the guilt! Like we didn't do enough to help a buddy survive... that we didn't do enough to help when the chips were down... that we coulda, woulda or shoulda known what to do and did it.... Well, you're going to find out in the next few minutes that that elusive guy you wished to find is none other than you... you're going to be the Alladin!
  • Your whole challenge revolves around burying the hatchet once and for all... however, not by continuing to be burying it in your back again.
    So, there's a relatively simple process which could conceivably free us from all of our past  transgressions, all of our presumed errors... all of our self-consuming doubts... all of our self-blaming and self-shaming and regretting... and that is to begin a new day... a new awakening, "To pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again..." as the old song or adage goes from the WWII era.
  • The idea here is to regain control of one's own ship... to take over your helm or wheel again... to allow oneself to navigate clear of the rocky shoals and the doldrums or staid complacency, to be able to run free with following seas and with billowing wind within your sails, free to roam the vast seas and not be the effect of deleterious things anymore. And to never be the effect of blaming oneself, feeling shame for oneself and regretting what can no longer be reversed nor ever changed again. The secret, more or less as mentioned previously is to let the crap all go down the shitter where it truly belongs... that is all the things which are no longer part of you here right now... and that's all the self-recriminations which don't have any rhyme nor reason to continue vexing you or messing with you....
  • So here's the way the old coot did it... just before hitting the sack I knelt down by the rack and folded my hands plus placing my paws upon it... and praying to God that I'll not have any dreams of which I don't want to look at... that which I no longer wish to be part of.... However, if I cannot forgive myself first for all the screw-ups I've made or promulgated then how for God sake could one expect to be free to command myself to do anything... right?
  • And here's how the old coot bit the bullet... I began by making a list of everyone which I blamed, shamed and regretted myself over... this took some time... so as soon as the recriminating memories flashed by, where-ever yours truly happened to be at the time,  we dutifully plugged them into my iPhone, iPad, desktop, notepad or daily-planner... whatever was handiest. Then I asked myself, "Who's actually running the show here? Is it my conscious mind or nothing but the subconscious mind bubbling up the blaming, shame and regrets? I then decided that living in the present was one helluva lot better than continuing to wallow in self-doubt and my continual recriminations. So I began by slowly forgiving myself for each person that this guy had angered, offended or hurt, or failed to help in time... one by one these ostensible vexations fell away... but only if I truly let them go completely... in other words thoroughly released the crap... in totality.
  • Then the next stage was to forgive all the other assholes, other than myself that is.... One by one writing down each grudge I held against whomever, each bitter vendetta or vengeful memory... and then coming to the realization that I was truly nothing but a product or effect of all that crud.... that it was literally eating me up inside... that I was internalizing all that hate.... That this terrible trash was affecting my health both physically and mentally plus emotionally and especially spiritually.
  • So I let it all go sequentially... or again one by one, that is... as they bubbled up to the surface of my recently seemingly awakened consciousness, and then subsequently handling it upon a daily basis. Plus remembering to effectively reprogram myself every time these unwanted mental image pictures began to raise their ugly heads again... even partially awakening fro a sleep-state... until they had completely evaporated into thin air. But does one truly wish to let them all go or not? Ah, that's the rub... is it not? Does one truly wish to be free of all one's misgivings, grudges and recriminations? If not then you have no one else to take hold of except you... right? It's however, OK to momentarily blame oneself...but only until you've grabbed the bull by the horns and done something about it... that is by forgiving the miscreants or your seeming adversaries and or things that go boomp in the night... again, implementing them one by one methodically and forcefully! Now's the ball's in your court and certainly not in anyone else's. Are you going to do something about it or just continue to grouse and tear yourself up about it and the other loved-ones around you?
  • No you're not going to continue to harm yourself.. that is if you care about those around you which love and wish to respect you for all the great and good things you've accomplished in your life, so far. Oh, BTW... begin by making a list of all the worthwhile things you've done for others plus yourself too.... So, what are you waiting for... some stinking fairy godmother to come along and say, "All is forgiven... you're healed....? Hell no... you've got the tiger by the tail now run with it... as you now have the strength and stmnina to deal with it. By eliminating all the crap that's holding you back from realizing your objectives or goals of having an enjoyable life with your family, friends and everyone else of whom you're going to come into contact with....
  • So now it's up to you.... Now you know how to become an asset to yourself rather than a stinking liability.... And to freely cope with those of whom are your loved ones, plus all the one's that you interface with upon a daily basis... right? Right! No more self-medication nor robotically doing violence to yourself nor anyone else, right? Right! You're as free to roam as that genie you just let out of that old crappy bottle... because you're the Alladin, for you're in command of you again... and nobody nor nothing else! Go for it, good veteran!

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